tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-268044102011-11-27T19:26:46.756-05:00Adventures in the life of a confused divaAfro Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16549802827134981338noreply@blogger.comBlogger861100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26804410.post-81869936556858993042008-11-04T12:34:00.003-05:002008-11-04T12:41:45.280-05:00

Wow, I totally get it. It's not hard. By that I mean love & relationships. I made it hard by listening to all the lovely advice from friends and well-meaning but misinformed people. It is simple, be clear about what you want and when you are not getting it, communicate and then choose! So I met this guy, and he is pretty cool. Like anyone he had his stuff, but at the end of the day he's

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Lol, so here I am again. Silly me, I thought we were "getting to know each other'" for the purpose of seeing if we wanted to do the relationship thing. It seems that I made a choice, friendship or romance. I have to be honest, I wasn't aware the two were mutually exclusive. He asked me "what are we doing' I said "getting to know each other and becoming friends" he took that to mean I wasn't

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Be on time and if you can't, call and let A.Diva know you will be late, can't make it, need to get a raincheck etc. Not showing up or showing up more than 10 minutes late is a deal breaker.In the beginning always ask A. Diva out 2-3 days in advance. A. Diva has shit to do and most likely is not going to be available at the last minute. If you wait till that last minute you will most likely

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For the most part, I have always dated with a single purpose, "the possibility of a long-term relationship (LTR) with another person." Not necessarily marriage, but with the intention to create a friendship that last for more than a couple of week or months. The exception to this would be a brief fling after my last long relationship drought.Fast forward to the present. After about another 2-yr

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eye Affirmations for Success:I desire the highest and best in life, and I now draw to myself the highest and best. The right use of my mind is the key to healthy, happy, prosperous, successful living.I experience peace, health, and plenty in my world. I develop the power of prosperous thinking and reap a harvest of prosperous results.Everything I touch turns to gold.

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I will accept that no matter how much I want it to be different there are real dating rules that I am going to have to follow in order to get these men to straighten up and fly right.It seems men really want to be manipulated and seduced into treating a women like a human being. Please note I am asking for what I see as the basics of consideration, but apparently when you are romantically

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These are the three principals by which I have decided to live my life. With that in mind, I have taken a leap of faith and am excited, scared, enthusiastic, and exuberant about! I have been all around the world trying to figure out where my life is heading. I have prayed, meditatied, reasoned, and therapied myself to death to get clarity about my path, purpose, and potential.I will be working on

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I am being confronted in my social life. I decided I would do this dating thing and be open to finding love and I truly believe I have been giving it a go, but none of this makes any sense to me. Sometimes I think I may be too logical, but it is who I am and I really don't want to change it.When I meet a guy I may or may not been immediately attracted to him physically. It is just rare that I

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I wrapping up my latest read, A New Earth: Awakening Your Life's Purpose by Ekhart Tolle (AKA the Oprah Book) and it has me thinking. This is a good thing. I like things that make me think, and get me wondering about how I am approaching this thing we call life. While the book is not thick, it is quite dense and it is taking me a while to get through it all. On the one hand it's simple, but

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Here's the scenario: We have plans to go out. We set them 2 days ago. We talk at noon and plan to meet @ 3p, he never shows. 2 weeks, no call, no communication. I ask the question "Why?" He says, "Something came up and he knew I would be upset, plus he wasn't sure if I was feeling him." I say, "It doesn't matter, if you couldn't make it you should have called, and if something came up, when

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1/14/08The sadness just sort of slips in. Slowly stealthily like a fog. I just look up and it's upon me and I don't know how to shake it. I just want to wrap up and stay there until it goes away, but I have things to do and people I am accountable to, so I put one foot in front of the other and keep trudging along. What set it off was the realization that I have to cut some people loose and

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Haven't done this in a minute. There's been a lot going on. Since my last post, I've gotten a job, started the job, and considered quitting the job! A lot in a little over a month right? I was offered a position December 11, 2007 with a non-profit in Chicago. I get to work on behalf of youth and I love it! The job falls perfectly in line with the purpose I have chosen for my life, but the

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My whole crew is going skiing in Vail this January for MLK weekend. I love to ski and would love to go to Vail, CO. I have never been there before and we have a phat condo thanks to my BFF's mom's law firm. So here's the deal. I am starting a self-development program that same weekend and I can't miss the first day which is Sat Jan 19th! Everyone is like, why don't you just push the workshop

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I am happy to see my Dad, I am on the fence about my sister, but what I do know is that I miss home. Not Detroit, not the house I grew up in, but that good feeling of love and laughter and togetherness. I'm on the train as I write this heading back from the Chi back to see the family, but that good feeling isn't there.I know what it is, but that doesn't fix anything, it just means I get it. My

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I am so shamed that this mess went down in Detroit, but even so I still have to call 'em out! I NEVER EVER would have thought a black person would do some mess like this! Amid furor, DJ cancels party for 'light-skinned' blacks 'I made a mistake,' local party promoter says after Internet backlash. Oralandar Brand-Williams / The Detroit News DETROIT -- A local DJ and party promoter retreated

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Part 1I spent this evening in conversation with a gentleman I've been seeing. It's nothing serious, because I've been trying to "Date." I was told the reason I have not had the best of luck with men and relationships is that I have always taken it too seriously. It was explained to me by retired pimpstress T-Mack that it's a numbers game and that the more men you date the higher the odds

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So many complaints and so many people wanting to find love, why can't we seem to connect? No one really wants to be alone, yet we can't seem to stay together either. An friend of mine recently expressed his desire to find "the one" I had to ask what he meant by that. With aaaaallllll the dynamic single women I know I just don't understand how a man who sincerely wants to be attached would

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I was talking with my friend Rapture regaling him with my escapades here in the Chi. I mentioned that I went to church and he almost choked. Yes its been a loooooooong time since I went to church, and if you've been hanging out with me you know why. So why after almost 6 years have I not only been at church for the past three weeks, but actually looking forward to it?Simple I found a place

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I've been kickin' it in the Chi for about three weeks and officially loving it! Outside of the fact that I have a tastee roommate, I also have an AMAZING view of Lake Michigan. I literally wake up and look out over this beautiful peaceful blue expanse. Add to that fact this fabulous Indian Summer we have this September and I am in heaven.I made this move to get a change of scenery and start

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That's what I keep telling myself at least. I swear I didn't sign up for this, but somehow here I am. On the one hand I am tickled pink about having made this move and feel excited and anticipatory about what lies ahead. But, on the other hand, I am just tired and wish things were already different. Starting over again is no picnic! This is not where I planned to be at this point in my life

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I had the Ipod going as I drove home from the festival and Al Green's "How Can You Mend a Broken Heart" came on. No big deal, but when I went to sleep my mind betrayed me :-(I felt the lyrics to the song deeply. I mean I was in tears, just thinking "How am I going to do this? How can I start again? Will I be able to do it?" No, no one has actually broken my heart romantically (I would have to

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I met someone and while things seemed to be going well in an instant he was gone! Its strange b/c it felt good, but then again perhaps my spidey sense was a little off b/c its been awhile since I really connected with anyone. A few great evenings together, long talks about shared interests, and romantic strolls along the riverfront peppered with kisses, hugs, and talks of enjoying the moment,

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Really, just b/c I say nice things to you and doll out the praise like you are the king of the world, I am okay with us being friends. Unlike a lot of people my compliments and well-wishes are not always attached to an ulterior motive. If you are fine you're fine, if you smart you're smart, and if I'm feeling you, well I'm feeling you, whatever.Then, please keep in mind that even if I think

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Prince is back with a new album and he's working with Wendy & Lisa Again. I must say I am excited and looking forward to it. Prince is one of the few musicians that inspire me and I really need some inspiration right about now!

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I don't want to compete with youI just want to build with youI don't want to stand behind youCan't I just walk next to you?We're reflections of each other seeI look @ you I just see meTogether we can change the worldbut you must make me your only girlI'll treat you like the king you arebring you the sun moon & the starsI want your strength, respect, and loveAs is below, the same aboveWhen this

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I think I have forgotten how to date. Really, its been so long I'm worried I might not remember what to do or how to act. I swear there is another side to me that's not all work, but its been so long since she came out to play I fear she may be lost. I want to remember how to let my hair down and just be...I don't feel like its my fault, its not like I haven't wanted to go out over the past

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It has to be more than talking about "it." I feel like people weren't hearing Russell Simmons who talked about the root of the problem. While I am not a fan of the gangsta rap and ghetto foolishness I understand that the music is just a symptom of a bigger problem. To some extent its economic, but it is also psychological, emotional and spiritual.I have said that my people here suffer from

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Ms. O did a town hall today on the fall out of the Imus issue today and although its been overshadowed by the foolishness at Virginia Tech I would love to get some feedback. I know a lot of people think she is out of touch and doubted whether or not she would use her show as a platform for this topic. So now that she has what else is there to say?Oprah gets a lot of hate from some members of

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Yes I'm going to say it, even with the charges being dropped, I don't know if I believe they are innocent. Here's the thing. I went to Duke and I can attest to the lifestyle of the students there and it is one privilege and entitlement. Duke is a wonderful school and I would recommend anyone go there black, white, or other,but Duke is also very much like the real world.We may never know what

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First off, this shows just how out of the loop I've been. I hadn't heard anything about this foolishness until I talked with my line-sister yesterday. After catching up on each other's lives she asked my opinion on the IMUS situation. I had no idea what she was referring to. I don't watch too much TV and don't listen to the radio much either (I can't stand most commercial music) so I admit,

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Its times like these I just can't figure myself out. I sit here with all this greatness in front of me, but I just am not feeling it. Perhaps its the sore throat that's been lingering for the last week or maybe its something more.I never set up for it to be this way, but somehow I ended up here and I'm confused. Where did it all get off track? Realistically was if ever really on track? I'm

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I wrote an entry titled The New Woman and I went on and on about how we are liberated and want to be valued and blah blah blah. The thing is, we've heard it all before. So I thought about it, and came to this conclusion, there is a lot on conversation about feminism and the changing roles of women, but what about the men?After my Saturday Pole Position class, we got to chatting and as all the

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Read the Original Post Great Item for discussion, here are my thoughts Hmm, I might get put on blast for this one, but I don't buy it. I spent most of my life "saved," and it just wasn't worth it. I was unsatisfied, miserable, and confused. Don't get me wrong, I see how someone who spent most of her life running the streets acting a fool can try and back it up, but there is no sense in

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My Party was wonderful! Yes I know its been over a week since the big day, but I just got a moment to catch my breath. Last week was the beginning of the Spring class session and I've been busy teaching and promoting.The day was great, very relaxing. Of all the things I could do, I did laundry. I actually like laundry, it smells good and its soft and wonderful(I do not like having to use the

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I don't buy the bullshit that the mother has to "stay at home," or not work, in order to raise good children b/c for most of our history, black women weren't even given that as an option and plenty of "good children" were raised back in the day. For those who were "at home" they had a cottage industry business like doing other people's laundry. Most black women have always had to work.With that

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Have you ever had your worst nightmare come true? Nonetheless I'm going to keep this positive so its about what will happen vs. what is right now.I have faith that the man I find attractive, stimulating, and fun, who desires me for more than my womb, vagina, cooking and cleaning skills, physique, and "prettiness" is on his way in the next 3 months. This man who loves my ambition, drive,

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Why oh why are schools in Washington State trying to ban booing, heckling, and other forms of intimidation and distraction at school sporting events? I am all in favor of creating positive environments, but this is foolishness.I have several friends and associates who are parents and educators and the more I speak with them about what's going on the more I see why I as an employer have

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Of course you can! You can have whatever you want, but do you know what that is? I love this whole "The Secret" craze. I first found about it via a couple of seminars I went to and reading on wealth and prosperity.No a lot of people know what they don't want, but that doesn't really help does it? I knew back in 1995, actually 1994 that I didn't want to be an engineer, but I just couldn't

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Okay so I know we're going to weigh in differently on whether or not marijuana should be legal, but I hope we all can agree that 2 & 4 year olds do not need to smoke...anything!I was attempting to go to sleep and I see this foolishness on several news channels and yes I was shamed b/c they were black men giving it to little children :-(.I just don't understand people's thought process sometimes.

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I took a little trip to the movies tonight and saw "Daddy's Little Girls." I strongly suggest every single professional black woman go see this and be prepared to laugh until you cry. I swear it was hilarious on so many levels. Now I don't want to spoil it for anyone (so stop reading if you haven't seen it), but I felt like someone was sitting in on my many many many conversations with my

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Okay, but really. I was all excited (well maybe not excited, but eagerly anticipating, but I guess that's the definition of excited right? whatever) about going to see the men of Chippendale's at Casino Windsor for Valentine's Day. Now I didn't have a Valentine's so I thought this would be fun.For the record I am not a big fan of male dancers/strippers. Yes I know I teach Exotic Dance, but in

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So it is weird that for once I am not sad about not having a Valentine? Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't mind one, but there is no funky feeling of being left out b/c no one is bringing me flowers, jewelry, chocolate, or a video game (the one gift I always wanted, but never got). I think my work could a have a bit of a bad influence on me as it relates to relationships.I have all these fabulous

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So, I'm trying go to sleep and this song keeps running through my head. I hadn't thought about it in a couple of years and then he (my favorite internet playboy) decides to quote it in his latest post. It's Erykah Badu's "Orange Moon." It was "our song," no not me and my playboy, but me and, well I guess my "Sun." read the cause of this flash backIt was one of those relationships people just

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ROFLMAOI must say I was shocked at the question. I mean I know I don't date a whole lot, but do people really think I'm GAY? Let me be fair and re-tell the entire story. I was at a SuperBowl get together, nothing formal just friends and family hanging out eating junk food and talking. I was talking to my friend's Dad and he blurts out "Do people ask you if you're gay?" I think the look on

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I swear if I hear another story about a seemingly intelligent, educated, well-spoken black man becoming a reluctant Baby Daddy to some hoochie I am going to hurt someone. It seems though this is the only way to catch one of them though. I would like to hear more about loving relationships turing into marriages and planned families, but instead all I get is, OOPS.From what I can tell the way to

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GOOD NEWS: Its been rescinded as of Jan 18thBAD NEWS: It ever existed in the first placeread the original articleOMG I can't believe this. How on earth in 2006 can black people really claim that braids and locks are "unprofessional" and or faddish. I would agree that all hair should be maintained neatly, but to say natural styles are "unprofessional" WTF??!!!This thing with the Baltimore Police

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What he really was the one? Why and I thinking about this? I'm not quite sure. Every other night there's a dream. When I'm trying to work its in my thoughts. What am I supposed to do? Usually Iknow what its about, there is someone or something making me think back, but I'm not sure right now. There's nothing I can do about it now. He's not here, he's not available to me. Hell I don't

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Okay so I teach Exotic Dance Classes and I love it. If you knew me 10 years ago there is no way you would believe I'd be doing this. At that time I was finishing undergrad about to get my Engineering Degree wondering what on earth my life was going to be like.LOL, I still can't belive I'm doing this sometimes, but I swear its a blast! I have always loved dancing, but never really got

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I've got this friend, we'll call her "Belle"Known her for years, longer than I'll tellShe's always been special, its part of her charmWe'd laugh at her antics, but were never alarmedAt our last reunion, the vibe was newShe was being extreme, acting a foolI reached my limit, and we fell outI wasn't wrong, she should watch her mouthI love my friend, but she worries me soMakes unwise choices, picks

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Just got back from a great little ski getaway with friends. Its been a couple of years since I pulled out my boots & blades but it all came back after a few test runs. The thing about skiing is that there are very clear levels of difficulty and this time out I decided to push myself and stepped up to the intermediate (blue) level. Now I should add the last time I went there and hit a blue, it

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AfroerotiK: Who's Your Daddy?As I get older and wiser I see how much of a blessing it was to have a Daddy. A real Daddy, a shonuff take you sledding, to the thanksgiving parade, teach you to change a tire/oil/brake pads, always bring you a gift on Valentines/Sweetest/Birthday, pick you up from Nursery School, even a a grown-ass woman always have your back, Daddy. I used to think everyone got

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"Kwanzaa is a made up holiday"I hear it a lot, and its funny to me because all holidays are made up. Really think about it, someone decided to celebrate Easter, Christmas, Hannahka and everything else. So just b/c the Black or African American culture evolved hundreds of years after other religions, or cultural groups, we are not allowed to makeup our own traditions?Hmm instead of trying to find

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It really hasn't been right for many years, but I think this the first time I gave in to the feeling. Or lack thereof.I miss my momI miss Christmas with my entire familyI miss playing Christmas carols on the piano & singing along (yeah we really did that)I miss wrapping presents in front of the fireplaceI miss picking out the tree with my dad & decorating it with my sister & mommy extended

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I don't even like the sound of it. I had a gentlemen send me a message about how he is ready to settle down now and doesn't do the club thing anymore. He's ready to find a wife and start a family. He also said he loves to dance. So I asked him, where he plans to do his dancing, if he isn't doing the club thing anymore (I must add that dancing is one of my FAVORITE past times)?He wrote

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I'm entering the 4th quarter of my 30th year and of course 2006 is coming to a rapid end. Like most I tend to do my share of reflection assessment and introspection. I have a friend who just hit 29 and as I read his blog and observe his being I am reminded of me at 29. LOL i now it sounds a bit pretentious as that was just a year ago, but I distinctly remember how I felt March of 2005 knowing

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I hate to say it, but life sucks sometimes, checkout Afroerotik's postHmm I really feel you and as a matter of fact just had a similar conversation with friends earlier today. I'll be honest with you, positivity, integrity, and good works do not payoff quickly. You would think they do, but the world we live in is screwed up. You have choices you can make to get a quick result. There are

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So I am forever indebted to the inventor of EAR BAGS or EAR POPS whatever you want to call them. Of all the things I hate about cold weather, its cold ears. People have laughed b/c I will rock ear muffs in a minute. Yes I am a grown ass woman who will wear earmuffs religiously...until I found EAR BAGS last winter. I had the honor of going to a SuperBowl XL Media Party at the Fox Theater last

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In five years I will be 34 years old. I will be in a long-term committed relationship. I will have started my HBCU endowment foundation to improve facilities at Historically Black colleges. I will be managing my successful business empire consisting of Entertainment, Media, Events and Real Estate divisions. I will have the ability to travel the world and continue to generate wealth for myself

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2 Fly  4 Ucan't believe i ever wonderedthought my sh*t wasn't tightthinking i had it wrongwhen its so hella tightu cant go looking for kingsin a pit full of foolswhen u shine this brighthe'll always find youwhen i was a young chicki knew i was badnever had a doubtwhat i wanted i grabbedmessing around with clownswill f*ck up your headquestion your divinityfind yourself misleadmoved passed the

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Hmm, this didn't happen to me, but damn if it hasn't jolted my crazy behind back into reality. A friend of mine just lost someone close to him and while my heart went out to him, her, and her family it wasn't until last night that it really hit me.My mother died January 20, 1995. I was a sophmore in college when my bestfriend/roommate answered the call from my sister at home. Then much like

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Just got back from a little R&R. I needed some new energy and a different space to help clear my head. I've been on the grind for a while now (almost 10 years to be exact) and it got real hard to keep going. I know its not supposed to be easy, but I was to the the top. Scratch that I was over the top and starting to drown it was soo deep.At the urging of my champions I treated myself to a

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Disillusioned Fan RE: Kramer's TiradeKramer's Racist Tirade caught on tape*Shakes head slowly in disgust*  When I heard about this over dinner tonight I was shocked.  I truly enjoyed him as Kramer on Seinfeld and now the show will never be the same.    I'm not surprised that racism exists, but it still makes me sad that people can be so ignorant.  I don't want to distrust white people, but it

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I would challenge you to find anyone to question whether or not I am an independent woman. I have no desire to "live off" of anyone or be "needy," but it wasn't until very recently that I found out that many people have equated my feminist tendencies with anti-family and were surprised to find out my value system could be considered "traditional." As with almost everything I do, I have to add

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Romance is not dead.I am happy to say I just heard about one of the most original and romantic proposals ever!  A young soror from my iniation chapter (Lamda Omega @ Duke University) got engaged this past weekend to her long-time boyfriend.  The story follows:The Story:Since I live in VA, Brandon and I take turns taking the bus back and forth. My mom was in NYC for business so I was the one to

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I was planning on writing a long blog about how upset I am about thefact that proposition 2 passed here in Michigan yesterday and how thatwill affect minorities and women in the state, but it all feltstrangely familiar. Then it hit me, I already did this. . . 10 years ago in 1996 when I was a columnist for the Duke University Chronicle.I hopped online, searched the archives, and BAM!! I found my

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When you try to lean on someone and they keep letting you down what are you supposed to do just fall over? I'm not going down like that, ever. You want to "save" me, you want to be "hero" then step to the plate and handle your business. I don't know any woman in her right mind that wants to do it all, but hell if I waited on other people to do things for me I would probably be homeless,

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So I'm back home after the official grand opening of my studio. seeing as my fingers and hands are in pain due to extended use of the staple gun to reupholster two love seats i'll keep this short.i am estatic albeit exhausted from the work, estatic nonetheless from the turn out. for the first time i actually am really pleased with the outcome of an event. by pleased i am referring to not only

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I love to dance. I don't claim to be super talented at it, but I love to do it nonetheless. When I am out there I really feel the music and get caught up in the moment. Dancing is one of the few times, my mind is totally empty of all the responsibilities and thoughts that generally cloud my mind. I honestly cannot see myself with a man who will not dance with me. Mostly b/c he will not

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Original Post know-your-role.htmlPost 2 know-your-role-2.htmlOriginal Post CommentsHmm, I hear it, and I agree with it, but what I find hard to believe is that is really hard to find a "virtuous" woman. Instead I would say that most of these sistahs are single and sad because they cannot compete with the "others."When you are nice to a most men (and perhaps what i am about to say is true b/c we

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AfroerotiKI am in love with Afroerotik. At last a site that feeds my need for erotica that I can identify with. I highly reccomend you check it out, but be prepared for arousal, intrigue, and stimulation.

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I almost didn't go see it. I thought why do I want to see a stupid movie about two people fighting over who gets the condo after a break-up? Especially seeing as I am not in the best place around relationships right now, but last night I couldn't bear to spend another Saturday Night in, I didn't feel like a "party" or club, so I went to the dollar movie for a little escapism.It was cool, it

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Why is it so hard to connect? I've been told lately that I let people know too much about what I think. I put it out there too much. I guess trying to be open and honest is a bad thing. I don' t like games really. I'm not just saying that to sound deep and mature, I really mean it. If something is on your mind let it out, I do. I guess that's why they say I am mean. Sometimes the truth

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HOW TO MOISTURIZE DRY SKIN (The Budget Fashionista)Yeah I know Vaseline has been in the family for generations. My momma, her momma, and even her momma's momma probably used it. . . but that doesn't mean its good for you. People smoked for years b/f everyone started dying from cancer and we all used to eat Soul Food like crazy, but now we know better. Vaseline and Mineral Oil products like

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I might get into some trouble and some may tell me this is a universal problem not restricted to black men, but this is my blog so i don't care. On the flip side I acknowledge that black woman have issues too, but that is not what this is about. In fact I truly understand the collective psychosis of black people and what we are going to have to do if we plan to survive as a community, but this

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I get it, really I do. I always felt that men and women are different, but in the last couple of days I have really had and insight into the fundamental differences that cause sooooooo much drama between the sexes. As I left one of my classes this week I got into a discussion with some of my students about challenges in getting their needs met. I jokingly said I would conduct a seminar

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" I know you got to get your hustle on" E - Badu, Other side of the Game I think about what it takes to "hustle" and succeed and I know the same qualities it takes to illegal activities can be applied to a legit hustle, if you are willing to make it happen. So tell me why don't more people in my community flip it? I have an associate, (I won't name any names) but he paid his way through

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You can see the full discussion at www.myspace.com/hamlettinternationalHmm, my take on the whole marriage thing is that there is too much focus on marriage and not enough on relationships, integrity, and commitment. Back in the day of these 40 - 50 year long relationships, people stuck through the good, the bad, and the ugly. It all boils down to commitment (continuing to what you promised to

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So lately, I have been feeling angry. But I finally get what it is directed towards. I feel like what I want is next to impossible living in America as a Black woman. I look around me city and see such defeat and desperation, and I wonder if I can really make it over the hump. So loving the web as I do I search for "angry black woman" and up pops these great blogs. For the past hour I have

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I don't know how many times I have to say it, but its too much for one person to handle. I have tried to make it smaller and smaller, but I feel like I have lost all direction and focus. I am being pulled in a million directions, and everyone wants me to do it all. The thing is, they want to reap the benefits of it and I guess I am offended that they think I am that much of a punk to let that

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This was me last night at about 2am"I am an angry black woman just looking for a reason to kick some ass. Everytime I think about the state of the world there is soo much rage inside I can barely control it. I am scared to speak my mind b/c I really might hurt a lot of people with my thoughts. So I sent day after day, night after night with all of it inside. It used to help to write it out, but

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Great things about having a boyfriend Strong hands to massage my aching muscles (for free) A deep soothing voice in my ear Warm body to snuggle up next to at night Romantic gestures Long, deep sensuous kisses Debate Dialogue Discussion Different Point of View Balance Strength Encouragement Reminders of why I am single LIES! Selfishness Jealousy Unrealistic

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I swear I am just ready to pack up and go. I wish sometimes I could just disappear and reinvent myself. The problem is that I will always know who I am. I see so much talent around me, but everyone is struggling. For some reason I am sitting on the cusp of greatness, yet I hold myself up time and time again. I am hating everyone and everything right now and feel like I am expected to make it all

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God, I couldn't seem to put my finger on it, but I knew it was there. Then last night I had a dream and it became crystal clear. One of my constant complaints is that I don't meet anyone that I am attracted to, but when I share this with people close to me they all say the same thing, "You're too picky." I am not sure if that is possible, but I do think you can be fixated on the wrong things

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I watched the Oprah Legends Ball special tonight and spent an hour in tears. It was so moving. I looked at all those phenomenal women and just thought wow. To know that almost anything is possible when you just keep at it and stay true to your convictions. As I continue on this endeavor of dream building I often get tired; at times I feel discouraged and even think about giving up but things

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I just left a meeting with a new business partner, and after business we got a little personal. She shared with me how she has found the "love of her life." I am really happy for her, but it just makes me think about this whole love thing. I really used to believe I would find love, or that it would find me, but at this point I just don't know. Maybe I am unrealistic, like some of my friends

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Okay so I can't really remember the last time I got my groove on (at least 2 years), but I'm okay. Don't get me wrong, I am a big fan of sex, but no one has stepped up to the plate offering me something that would really make me consider jumping back into the swing of things. So I am in the midst of a self-imposed celibacy. I just can't see taking on all that comes along with being sexually

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